hubbleslaw:

I talk about my family a lot. They are an indescribably large part of who I am and who I want (and don’t want) to be.  And boyfriends/girlfriends who are serious about each other typically want their significant other to meet their family.  So it was natural for Julia to want to meet them. Plus we (normally) throw a hell of a Christmas…  eat and drink like kings, make merry and indulge. blah blah fuckin blah

What a fucking mistake - thinking that things could be that simple and that my family could be polite and maaaaaaaybe friendly.  Yeah they’ve had a rough year but no excuses. The whole trip my mom is dropping indirect insults.  Demeaning WASPs, people from Washington, girls in their 20s, monogamy - all shit Julia is or believes in, and most uncomfortably, my father.  Julia and my dad have spent a bit of time together.  He’s the only person in my immediate family who has visited me in WA since their exodus 2 years ago.  He’s a sweet man, with some old school ideas, and has been extremely polite and friendly with Julia, if a bit awkward sometimes.  And there’s my mom, a total stranger to Julia, explaining how she regrets marrying my father and how being with him has been a mistake, etc etc.  Easy way to make a new person uncomfortable on top of already feeling insulted because you’re sooooooooo glad that you’re not German or Irish because you hate those people - they have no culture. And this went on and on for the better parts of 4 days.

Julia took it all with a smile and politeness.  Even my brother “jokingly” flipping her off and calling her a “fuckin bitch.”  But I don’t think she has had a worse few days in her life.  She hates my family, and they deserve it.  Awesome.  We sat together quietly during Christmas dinner, enjoying the company of the two other nice family members present (my uncle - dad’s bro of course, and an older cousin), just taking more and more of my mom’s passive aggressive bullshit while I got progressively more pissed.  A different person wouldn’t have tolerated even a few minutes let alone 4 days of this type of shit but I took it because I had hope that maybe it would get better.  Stupid stupid stupid.  I knew that as soon as I opened my mouth the whole situation would explode, so I tried to avoid that… but Sunday morning I lost my shit on my mom.  Not in a spazzy out of control sense… haha I “spoke my truth.”  Yelling screaming and crying ensue. My sister calls my girlfriend white trash.  I get in her face, threaten bodily harm - not my finest moment.  I tell my mom she’s been rude and condescending and exhibited no class. 500$ later Julia and I fly back 2 days early and skip Christmas.  FUCK

errrrrg

Your ‘white-trash, manipulative, two-faced, immature, rude, bitch of a girlfriend’ will hold her tongue on this…but ugh